A lot of women come to me because they have problems in getting a new partner or with an existing partner. Those who are having problems in finding someone often turn to chat rooms and forums in the hope of finding someone there. Unfortunately a lot of them are quite naive and gullible and get fooled and drawn in by selfish guys who lie in order to try to get what they want.
Let us look at some of the facts. If a woman or someone pretending to be a female goes into a chat room there will be hundreds of guys asking her to chatter very quickly. If a guy goes there he will be lucky if he gets one offer and this would be from a gay man pretending to be female as women are not usually seeking chats and get so many asking them they do not need to look for people to ask.
Men can ring phone chat lines and pay for chats there so it stands to reason that they will try to get them for free online to save money, but there is nothing in this for the woman. There is also the fact that most men are looking to talk about sex or hoping to meet the woman and will steer the conversation around to her age, what she looks like, where she lives and sex if they can. When you are a female getting hundreds all asking you where you live and what you look like it is boring, predictable and a total waste of time. Women who really want to meet would go to a dating agency normally. It is safer and saves a lot of time.
Females tend to go online for a conversation while they are waiting for the pie to cook in the oven or the washing to finish it’s cycle, it does not mean that they are unhappy at home with husband or sexually frustrated or wanting to cheat. But men are often looking for a conversation because they are bored at home and wanting to chat about sexual matters, to relieve themselves, and if possible it would be even better to meet up. To the guys it is a fishing expedition, where they cast their net out and see who bites. The females are the fishes and got less reason to bite. Hence some of the men will offer them money to meet and others will get very nasty and angry when they refuse to meet.
In their effort to get the sexual chat or meets from the females the men will often lie, pretending to be single because so few women will consider meeting a married guy or a guy in a relationship. Pretending to be better looking or younger. Pretending to be rich and have pots of money they want to spend on her. In some cases you can tell that the guy is mentally ill or wanting to feel superior to women rather than wanting sex chat.
If you are a female wanting a chatter remember that many men lie, remember that a lot of the so called single guys are married or in a relationship and men who say their age are often older than they claim, many of them lie about their job and other circumstances. Most of all many lie about why they are asking to have a conversation with you.
Women being safe in online chat rooms is not just about not meeting, you should be able to meet if you want, but it is about not being eager to trust everything that people say and remembering that they are strangers with ulterior motives.
The worst that can happen is that you meet the wrong person and are raped or murdered or badly beaten up, maybe abducted and never seen again by those you love. But why put up with the best that can happen, which can be verbal abuse from someone you cannot trace or punish who thinks it is safe to be nasty to you when you refuse to Skype with them topless?